JOURNAL 16: Seminar gender confusion, IIUM Kuantan.

Assalamualaikum =)

We went to Seminar on Gender Confusion and its such a sweet memory and the input that we got from there is so valuable.

We can just describe it with some pictures :)

Main Entrance IIUM, Kuantan

We are from Gombak :)

From left : Solehah, Aisha, Najihah, Alya, Ummu

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JOURNAL 15: counselling awareness

Assalamualaikum =)

‘Did the counselling is the good course to study? Isn’t it based on the Western theory only? We have religion so counselling is useless.’ –this is what my friends asked.

Due to it’s a sudden question, I can’t answer it well and part of my heart almost believe what they said. Yes, most of the counselling theory is based on Western perspective. Then, we study it and apply it to the client.

We take the courses that can help us to help client in the way that they are in, but the thing is quite subjective due to there is no absolute syllabus that we, the student, can refer if there is any problems that is related with client.

‘Why there is no book regarding with counselling that is for Malaysian or Muslim even we know the Western counselling book is quite bias based on their value and culture?’ –I wondered.

In class, we also learn the subject based on the Western books. Even there is book from Muslim scholar, the syllabus mostly from the Western book just small part of t on the Muslim scholar book. Regarding with this issue, I would like to suggest that the lecturer should ask the student to refer on the Muslim scholar book rather than Western book, so that the student could master the Islamic counselling very well.

There are few books written by Malaysian psychology or counseling student in the market, however, the books only translate a Western book not giving new information to student especially about the different practice that the Malay counsellor should practice while helping their client.

While going through with the syllabus in this class, cross-cultural counselling, I do feel like for every country, we must have our own textbook, counselling intervention, counselling theory, etc if we want to be success in this filed. It is not the big problem if we referred to the Western counselling books, but we must produce our own counselling guideline to be a good helper and to make others believe on us.

‘We are waiting for your generation to produce our own counseling books, belong to Muslim.’ –my lecturer said.

We feel highly motivated. InshaAllah, one day we will come up with our own standard of counselling that is suitable with Muslim as well as Malaysian. Too many works to do, to many reading and research need to be done. May Allah help us to accomplish this. Aminn.

Thank you for reading =)

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JOURNAL 14: LGBT??

 WHAT SAY YOU?

Based on the discussion we had today, I am very sure that almost all of us still cannot accept LGBT to be legalized in Malaysia. Here we started to make ourselves thinking whether to accept what is everybody accepting or withhold with our Islamic principal.

So, what do you say? Start thinking our future counselor!

It is really hope that we as future counselors enable to make a proactive action in dealing with this issue. 

In my humble personal opinion, we are not counselor in first, but we are Muslim at first. So, we have to deal with LGBT client as they are Muslim by prohibitting them being a LGBT with a therapeutic manner. The confrontation must be done in a very subtle way. I say this because we are responsible on our action in the hereafter. If we showed the client to follow the wrong and sinful path, it is not only the client will burden the punishment, but as well as us too!

Thank You.

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JOURNAL 13: pantai timur Malaysian culture

Assalamualaikum =)

we did say in this blog that Malaysian is more group-oriented compared to religious-oriented. but we found it quite not really true. 

this is because while there is Ustaz Azhar Idrus ceramah at Gombak, we saw that there are lots of people there. most of them is Pantai Timur people.

how we know? we heard they speak Pantai Timur language. everywhere. all spoke the Pantai Timur slang. to be in that community it's quite interesting.

'dari mano?' -a aunty asked us.

'dari UIA.' -we answered.

'kelate ko? ko ganu?' -she continued the question.

'tak la mak cik, dari negeri-negeri lain. saja datang, nak dengar ceramah ustaz.' -we replied.

she smiled. and praised us for our effort to come to the ceramah.

yes, not so many teenagers be in that kind of event. 

be in there, we feel like we are in the others state. the sellers, the people around us, the kids. everything! without denying, people in Pantai Timur is quite religious. looks at the students in the IIUM, most of the religious courses dominated by the Pantai Timur student. why this happen? 

it's still be in the no answered question. perhaps we can do research on it one day? inshaAllah.... =)

that's it for this entry. do visit this blog again and read our next-interesting-entry.

thanks for reading. =)

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IMMERSION 5: Picture from temple

Assalamualaikum =)

 'SRI AYYANAREESWARA' temple in Wangsa Maju.

  Dhotti

One of their god

Main Entrance 1

Main Entrance 2

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JOURNAL 12: banjarian

Banjarian

Last Saturday, there was big event in my house. In the morning, my parent makes doa selamat for our new house and there have engagement event for my beloved sister in the evening. At that day, many people came such as neighbors, friends, aunties, nephews, and other relatives. All of them come to give some help. We together cook the dish at surau that near to my house and it make the atmosphere become happening. I still remember about one incident that happen during I make gubahan bunga for my sister’s hantaran, one of my auty which is banjarian was asked me, she said:

“Napa diulah?”

I am not answering anything, but I wonder, Haaa…? What is that?? So after that you know what I am doing? I just smile at her.. hehe.. (^_^)

Actually the meaning in bahasa malayu is “buat apa tu?” haha.. it is so different right? i also learn another word at that day, such as:

Berbah stumat (tidur sekejap)

Guring (baring)

Haloi (halus)

Besides that, I also learn about how to make one of banjarian traditional kueh which is “wadai kepeng”. The taste is so delicious! I like it very-very much and until today I still remember the taste. Actually, this traditional kueh have it symbolic. Usually this kueh will make for celebrate any happy event such as kenduri kahwin, engagement day, eid fitri/adha and so on. It is very suitable to make as a dessert.

Truly speaking, I am quite sad because I did not able to speak and understand banjar language. It is because my father only speaks in banjar when we back to his village. So, my sibling and I will not really understand what our relatives said if they speak by using fully banjar language. Thus, it makes us become silent and only listen to them. Even I am not fluent in that language, but I can understand certain word and still learn about it by asking my father. So, at least I have certain word that I can use when I speak with my relatives.

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IMMERSION 4: Quick peek to temple!

"Vanakam"
Salam and hi there. Why I said 'vanakam' earlier? It is because we a got chance to visit this temple located at Wangsa Maju near the LRT Station. Those people are so friendly and welcoming us fully hearted I guess since they always smiling to us. Uncle explain to us briefly about their culture and religion since the President of that temple is not there because of his wife is sick. So we just know basically about them.

Are they fasting? Can women who are dirty cannot visit death ceremony? Did teenagers involve in their activities or prayer? Are they accept outsiders to be in their group?

Those question will be answered in the Journal. From our short interview, we get to know their ritual activity, what food they consume and also some of they can do and what not. On 5th May they will have their own ritual and they invited us to come since we can know deeper about their culture.

It feels so great to know their culture and feels like to come there again. Oh one thing we hate the most is there's a dog in the temple so we quite afraid of it but the uncle take care of us very well. So we are able to not get bitten :P

The pic of their gods and our sweet memory will come later ya! Wait up!! Thanks for reading :). Havva good days pals.

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